Comments on: Bianca http://www.theaoife.org/bored/2006/12/04/bianca/ monkey musings and interspersed poo flinging Tue, 22 May 2012 22:14:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Aoife http://www.theaoife.org/bored/2006/12/04/bianca/#comment-1562 Aoife Mon, 18 Dec 2006 03:58:15 +0000 http://www.theaoife.org/bored/2006/12/04/bianca/#comment-1562 Holy Crap Dude! I was just working on cards too! Well, earlier today, that is. Like totally thinking about how I wasn't keeping in touch 'cuz I saw something I had started and meant to send to you but hadn't finished it yet. So good to hear from you, dear! I'll have to shoot you an email. Now that I finally can remember that there are other things in life besides paper-writing. And I'll bet if you looked at that silly story you'd laugh as much as I do about how very, very sucky it is. Holy Crap Dude!
I was just working on cards too! Well, earlier today, that is. Like totally thinking about how I wasn’t keeping in touch ‘cuz I saw something I had started and meant to send to you but hadn’t finished it yet.

So good to hear from you, dear! I’ll have to shoot you an email. Now that I finally can remember that there are other things in life besides paper-writing.

And I’ll bet if you looked at that silly story you’d laugh as much as I do about how very, very sucky it is.

]]> By: Doc_Bev http://www.theaoife.org/bored/2006/12/04/bianca/#comment-1561 Doc_Bev Mon, 18 Dec 2006 03:46:20 +0000 http://www.theaoife.org/bored/2006/12/04/bianca/#comment-1561 Qette, Huh... I had forgotten all about those stories. Although being the professional pack rat that I am I probably still have them around somewhere in a box. First time making it over to your website. Very spiffy! I've never gotten into blogging myself - could never even keep up with a regular old diary either I'm afraid. I was just working on your Holiday card now and thought I'd look you up. LLAP, ~Doc_Bev Qette,

Huh… I had forgotten all about those stories.
Although being the professional pack rat that I am I probably still have them around somewhere in a box.

First time making it over to your website. Very spiffy!
I’ve never gotten into blogging myself - could never even keep up with a regular old diary either I’m afraid.

I was just working on your Holiday card now and thought I’d look you up.

LLAP,
~Doc_Bev

]]> By: Aoife http://www.theaoife.org/bored/2006/12/04/bianca/#comment-1543 Aoife Tue, 05 Dec 2006 23:11:48 +0000 http://www.theaoife.org/bored/2006/12/04/bianca/#comment-1543 I never actually thought of naming one of my kids that name (should I ever have any, and every year it looks less likely... kids being the amount of work they are and all...). I wouldn't, because I've already picked and agreed on names for my kids with he who would have 1/2 the right to name them. We all have things about ourselves that we don't like. It's up to us to change that. Sometimes that means changing the way we see ourselves to see what we really are, not what we've convinced ourselves we are, and sometimes that means changing that trait that really is "non-desirable." Take, for instance, fatness. An overweight chick and an anorexic chick both see themselves as fat. The fat chick needs to change the trait, if she's fat and she doesn't like that, she needs to work to lose weight. The anorexic chick needs to fix her view... realize that no matter how much she thinks she's fat, she's not... she needs to change the way she sees herself. And both of them need to realize that they are not defined by one trait alone. And that having a trait does not define their worth as human beings. Name, like everything else about you, isn't defining if you don't want it to be and can change if you want to... or, you can learn to change your view of it. Just like every other trait: good, bad, or silly. Believe it or not, most of us are borderline crazy, some people just hide it better than others. Noone sees beneath the surface of someone who seems just fine... I mean, hell... all those serial killers that when you interview their neighbors always say how [he] seemed to be such a normal person.... We all have our dysfunctions... esp. those of us brought up in normal western society. We just live with them, and try not to let us be ruled by our own psychoses... Noone gets to have a perfect life, even if it seems it from the outside. It's what we make of our lives, ourselves, our situations that speaks as to who and what we are... besides rattled, huddled human beings just wanting a frikkin nap. :-) I never actually thought of naming one of my kids that name (should I ever have any, and every year it looks less likely… kids being the amount of work they are and all…). I wouldn’t, because I’ve already picked and agreed on names for my kids with he who would have 1/2 the right to name them.

We all have things about ourselves that we don’t like. It’s up to us to change that. Sometimes that means changing the way we see ourselves to see what we really are, not what we’ve convinced ourselves we are, and sometimes that means changing that trait that really is “non-desirable.”

Take, for instance, fatness. An overweight chick and an anorexic chick both see themselves as fat. The fat chick needs to change the trait, if she’s fat and she doesn’t like that, she needs to work to lose weight. The anorexic chick needs to fix her view… realize that no matter how much she thinks she’s fat, she’s not… she needs to change the way she sees herself.

And both of them need to realize that they are not defined by one trait alone. And that having a trait does not define their worth as human beings.

Name, like everything else about you, isn’t defining if you don’t want it to be and can change if you want to… or, you can learn to change your view of it. Just like every other trait: good, bad, or silly.

Believe it or not, most of us are borderline crazy, some people just hide it better than others. Noone sees beneath the surface of someone who seems just fine… I mean, hell… all those serial killers that when you interview their neighbors always say how [he] seemed to be such a normal person….

We all have our dysfunctions… esp. those of us brought up in normal western society. We just live with them, and try not to let us be ruled by our own psychoses… Noone gets to have a perfect life, even if it seems it from the outside. It’s what we make of our lives, ourselves, our situations that speaks as to who and what we are… besides rattled, huddled human beings just wanting a frikkin nap.
:-)

]]> By: Mrs_B (now you will know what the B stands for) http://www.theaoife.org/bored/2006/12/04/bianca/#comment-1542 Mrs_B (now you will know what the B stands for) Tue, 05 Dec 2006 13:58:28 +0000 http://www.theaoife.org/bored/2006/12/04/bianca/#comment-1542 Wow....you like the name Bianca.....seems kind of poetic that you would like the name of a person (me) who considers themselves on the boarderline of crazy and sane......If you ever have a kid would you use that name (for a girl)? I personally, hated my name for the longest time but have grown accustomed to it in the past few years....I like it now for its uniqueness........I guess my middle name is somewhat nice too (michelle)..... Just thought I would share. B Wow….you like the name Bianca…..seems kind of poetic that you would like the name of a person (me) who considers themselves on the boarderline of crazy and sane……If you ever have a kid would you use that name (for a girl)? I personally, hated my name for the longest time but have grown accustomed to it in the past few years….I like it now for its uniqueness……..I guess my middle name is somewhat nice too (michelle)…..

Just thought I would share.

B

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